Having spoken or unspoken Expectations of Engagement can ruin a relationship. Having Agreements of Engagement can strengthen a relationship.
Let’s set some Agreements:
I AGREE to take 100% Responsibility for my role in our relationship, no more and no less. My goal is for this to be a 5 out of 5-Star experience. If you bring your best and I kinda "phone it in" halfheartedly, the most we could achieve is 3 stars, and vice versa. Also, if I feel attached to you taking certain actions in certain ways then I am taking MORE than 100% responsibility for your experience and this behavior will diminish the experience if it is not noticed, acknowledged and released. Do you Agree to take 100% Responsibility for your role?
I AGREE to share feedback with you when it serves your Goals and desired Outcomes, even when it may be on my growth edge, just outside my Comfort Zone.
I AGREE to share feedback with the best intentions for your success, from a place of love and generosity.
When you feel ANGER or FEAR or GRIEF, you will use the tools you have to process these emotions and remember my agreements, and then communicate with me where you need help. Do you Agree to do this?
One of the ways I can provide the most value to you is to illuminate behaviors that are not serving you. I ask you view this feedback as a GIFT and to trust that my words are shared with the best intentions for you and your success and that I am offering them with love and generosity. The more we trust each other, the more direct I can be with feedback and observations, and the more quickly we can shift from suffering or stagnation to success in your professional and personal life.
I only work with people who have invested already in personal development, are living a great life, and know it can be even more spectacular - in an exponential way. You are a highly knowledgeable expert in your field and have a strong track-record of success. You also have a proven ability to create a life of your dreams. I support your drive and desire to expand upon this foundation and create even more elegant and satisfying success. Thank you for choosing me as your Coach and Guide.