Having spoken or unspoken Expectations of Engagement can ruin a relationship. Having Agreements of Engagement can strengthen a relationship.
Let’s set some Agreements:
I AGREE to take 100% Responsibility for my role in our relationship, no more and no less. My goal is for this to be a 5 out of 5-Star experience. If you bring your best and I kinda "phone it in" halfheartedly, the most we could achieve is 3 stars, and vice versa. Also, if I feel attached to you taking certain actions in certain ways then I am taking MORE than 100% responsibility for your experience and this behavior will diminish the experience if it is not noticed, acknowledged and released. Do you Agree to take 100% Responsibility for your role?
I AGREE to share feedback with you when it serves your Goals and desired Outcomes, even when it may be on my growth edge, just outside my Comfort Zone. I AGREE to share feedback with the best intentions for your success, from a place of love and generosity. Do you Agree to practice Revealing rather than Concealing with me too?
I AGREE to acknowledge when I am Below the Line. Do you Agree to do this too?
One of the ways I can provide the most value to you is to illuminate behaviors that are not serving you. I ask you view this feedback as a GIFT and to trust that my words are shared with the best intentions for you and your success and that I am offering them with love and generosity. The more we trust each other, the more direct I can be with feedback and observations, and the more quickly we can shift from suffering or stagnation to success in your professional and personal life.
I only work with people who have invested already in personal development, are living a great life, and know it can be even more spectacular - in an exponential way. You are a highly knowledgeable expert in your field and have a strong track-record of success. You also have a proven ability to create a life of your dreams. I support your drive and desire to expand upon this foundation and create even more elegant and satisfying success. Thank you for choosing me as your Coach and Guide.